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Lessons Not Learned
Oct 28th
The beautiful thing about the way the Universe works, is that, 1) It’s all bigger than we are, and 2) It’s all automated, so we don’t have to do anything for it to work. The world works according to unseen laws and principles… some of them scientific, some spiritual.
Today, in reading, I was reminded that Life is the greatest teacher of all. There’s simply no substitute for life experience. Borrowed wisdom is rarely appreciated or listened to. Since I was a young boy, I’ve always had to learn my lessons the hard way. Often insisting on doing something my way, until the pain of my way was just too much to bear any longer.
It took me about twenty years, but I finally learned the lesson: Lessons not learned, will be repeated.
Looking back I see this rule applied to my life in a dozen different places, but the ones that hurt the most were the relationship lessons that I refused to learn the first time around. Often not even recognizing that I needed to learn anything at all… I used to just think that it was somebody else’s fault, or fate… anything that would allow me not to take responsibility. One of the lessons learned was to respect myself and to stop holding on to things I had no control over (like other people). There were lots of lessons like that, all rolled into just a few relationships.
I can see now how I should have learned the lessons the first time around, when they were presented to me in friendships that needed to be cleaned out of my life, but apparently my way was better, and it took until I had almost gotten engaged to a girl before some of those lessons were learned the painful way.
Most lessons in life usually start out being taught gently. In our busy, hectic, ego-controlled lifestyles however we rarely seem to hear the still small voice gently teaching us the better Way. The Universe is much like my father was, he would start out asking me to do something… pick up my room, or mow the lawn, or something… and I would say ok, and then go about whatever it was that I wanted to do as soon as he’d left. It wouldn’t take very long before that normal voice, asking me to do something, was now fully raised and projected at me, and the consequences of not doing what I was originally advised to do were suddenly painful. Like I said before though, I had to learn the hard way back then. It’s funny to me now, but around my teen years I actually prided myself on having to learn the hard way! I guess the lessons just weren’t painful enough yet for me to listen.
With every situation in life though, there is a lesson you want to learn from it… that’s why it’s in your life at all. Instead of pointing fingers or trying to analyze what caused this in your life, try asking yourself, “What am I trying to learn from this?” Begin to seek out the lessons in your life and learn them, and stop the cycle of screw up, rinse, and repeat. There will always be another lesson to learn, but it won’t be the same lesson… you will be able to grow and move on. You will be able to restore the flow to your river of life that has been dammed up by this particular lesson.
Good luck, and don’t be scared to ask for help along the Way 
Do Something, Do Anything
Oct 21st
Talkers! Everybody knows at least one of them. They flap their gums all day long without ever managing to say much of anything. You might even be one of them. I know I was.
I was the kind of person who would go on and on about what I really wanted to do with my life, while at the same time whining and complaining about how my life really was. I knew all about what I didn’t want, and I even began to think and talk about what I did want.
I would get all excited about what I was going to do and I would talk to my friends about it, and then a few days later my excitement would be gone, along with whatever momentum and motivation I might have had. Does this sound familiar? Do you know someone like this? Is this someone maybe, You? Don’t worry if it is. The solution is fun and simple: Do Something!
It doesn’t matter if you don’t know everything you need to yet… just do something, Do Anything but sit there and talk and think about what you want to do. It’s called the Ready, FIRE!, Aim method. At some point you will need to take aim, but start doing something today. Do that thing you’ve been putting off, or start writing that book you’ve been talking about. Start your online business, or begin getting in shape and feeling good about yourself.
A good attitude and outlook, and healthy, powerful thoughts are necessary, but if you never take any action then the Universe will never manifest what you want. The other part of the Secret that no one ever talks about is Action! For instance, have you ever noticed that when you’re busy doing something, you don’t have time to be un-Happy. It’s when you’re sitting around doing nothing that you want to do that un-happiness occurs.
In his book You’re Broke Because You Want To Be, Larry Winget says, “What you say you want means almost nothing. When every action you make contradicts your words, your words don’t mean a damn thing.”
Words do have power. What you say does matter, but unless you are a person of Action, your words are robbed of their power to change lives. If you’re not acting in accordance with your desires, than any actions you are taking are contradicting what you want. And what do you think speaks louder to the Universe? Actions or Words? So by all means, talk and dream and think, but do something, any thing at all… The river will flow all by itself, you just have to jump in it.
