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Build A Temple To Achieve Your Goals
Jan 15th
The Christ told us that our bodies were a Living Temple, a place wherein God could reside. Let’s use this as an example for our goals in this life.
1. Are our goals living or dead?
Consider what you want in life, is the end goal worth having? Is it alive, will it bring vibrancy and light to your life? What good is it to have everything you ever wanted, only to find out that the price you paid to get there was too great? If you’re not happy on the path to your Happiness, then you’re probably on the wrong path. Make sure what you want is indeed, what you want.
2. What is our Blueprint?
As any builder can tell you, if you don’t know what the building is supposed to look like, then you can’t build it. Who or what are you modeling your goals after?
This is not the place to be cheap or modest… Shoot for the moon here. Find the best at what you want and devour everything you can find about them and what they did to achieve the thing you want. An example… if you want to be successful in real estate, don’t model yourself after the agent from Century 21, model yourself after Donald Trump… if you want to play in the NBA, don’t model yourself after your high school coach, model yourself after Michael Jordan.
Don’t mistake what I’m saying though, you can still learn a lot from the high school coach and the local real estate agent, in fact, that’s a great place to start, but what I’m saying is pick a Blueprint of Perfection for whatever goal you may have.
3. How is a Temple built?
Here’s where most people fall away… It’s built one stone at a time. You create your body one cheeseburger or one vegetable at a time… you wanna know why people are dying all around you? Because they eat flesh that is dead… and as we all learned as children, you are what you eat, and one dead stone after another, they have created a temple of death around them.
In the same way, you create your goal one step or mini-goal at a time. You’re not going to become a millionaire, or an enlightened being, or an amazing lover and spouse and parent overnight. Some people are able to work faster than others. It depends on where you are when you begin. Some have more natural resources than you might… which is why there’s no time like right now to begin.
The Laws Of Motion
Dec 9th
As most of us learned at a young age, there are certain physical laws that seem to govern the running of the cosmos. One of those laws is that, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Inertia
An object in motion tends to stay in motion, unless acted upon by an outside force. Again just a variation of action/reaction, but Inertia can be a wonderful thing if it’s applied to your life in a positive manner.
Another way to state the law of inertia would be to say that once the big ball gets rolling, it’s fairly easy (requires little energy) to keep it rolling. Now replace the big ball with success in your life. Once you get success going for you, it’s a chain reaction, and success just seems to happen all by itself. It requires hardly any energy to keep going, as opposed to the energy it took to get going in the first place. Remember how we talked about people are attracted to success?
Action Vs. Re-action
I believe one of the major reasons, that people never get what they want in life is because they never take the time to think actively or do actively or anything actively. Everything starts with a thought though, so let’s start there too.
How much time you spend thinking actively, as opposed to reactively? How much time do you waste contemplating the thoughts of someone else? This is how the masses can be led around like sheep, by advertising, and ‘leaders’, it’s because no one thinks for themselves, and the system is set up to keep you from doing just that.
All day long you’re bombarded with things that you react to, but do you spend anytime or energy doing some acting of your own? What are you uniquely contributing to humanity?
So here’s the homework for today 
You want success? If it doesn’t directly contribute to your ability to act on what you want, then stop reacting to it. All the distractions that you think make up who you are… just leave them right where you find them or take action to keep them from happening again.
It’s like a dog that just won’t leave you alone… I’m sure you’ve had this happen to you before, you’re sitting down, relaxing, watching a movie or talking with friends and the dog wants attention. So he takes action, he goes over to you and starts licking your hand, or gently biting it in the way that most dogs do when they want something. The thing is, you don’t want to give attention to the dog, you want to continue doing what you were doing. Now you can do one of two things… You can act or you can react.
Ignoring the dog will usually work (this would be not-reacting which is a form of action when consciously done), but patience is required and for sake of argument, let’s say this dog is very persistent.
You can give in and pet the dog, but all this does is make the dog want more, and so all of a sudden you have a bigger drain on your energy.
Or you can take action that will prevent the dog from interrupting you (training him to lie down and not beg for attention or putting him outside) Whatever the fix might be, taking action and not reacting, is the only way to make sure that you don’t end up doing the dog’s bidding as opposed to your own.
So spend a few minutes every day when you wake up, thinking actively about what you want, and if it doesn’t bring a smile to your face and joy and peace to your heart, then what you want isn’t worth having, or you’re in it just for the money which will never make you happy or content.
THink About IT…
Who Are You In Your Head?
Nov 3rd
In light of the recent holiday (Halloween), where you got to dress up and go masquerading around as whoever you pleased, I’ve been thinking about how we often wish we could be someone else.
I recently wrote about the importance of beliefs, and today’s topic is a big one: Other people tend to see you, as you see yourself.
Try this out, just for fun, and see if it doesn’t help you. Find a character from a movie, someone that you can watch and listen to. Pick somebody who has what you want in your life (whether it be success, confidence, integrity, money… whatever). Then Study this character… memorize the way they walk and move, the way they talk. Their facial expressions and body language.
Then for five minutes a day, when you’re alone, in front of the mirror, Be that person. Talk like them, move like them, act like them. Really make the character your own. See yourself in their location, see the people that would be surrounding this person, and pretend that they are surrounding you. Interact with these imaginary people… what would you say? what would you talk about as this new you?
Change the way you see yourself for the better. When you’re in that situation where you would normally freeze up and go into failure mode, ask yourself, “what would (your character’s name here) do?”
I’ll let you in on another little secret I’ve found: You’re brain can’t tell the difference between something you imagine happens and what really happens.
Both things are equally real to your brain. Take dreams for example. If something happens in a dream, like a friend dying, or you getting a promotion… when you wake up, supposing you’ve remembered your dream, then your brain treats those memories as actually having happened. So you wake from the dream of your friend dying with a pounding heart and an aching chest, just as you would have if your friend had actually died. And you wake from the promotion dream with the same exhilaration and expectation of a person who actually did just get a promotion.
Take Advantage Of Your Imagination
Use this to your advantage… don’t wait for a good dream that you actually remember when you wake up. Make up your own dreams while you’re already awake. It’s how we learned as kids too. We called it make believe, or pretending. See yourself as the best you possible. And when you need some help, switch into your alter ego and pretend, until you’re no longer pretending.
Don’t Make It, Earn It
Oct 29th
For most of my life, I’ve had some unhealthy views about money. Most people who grew up poor do. In my transitional stage of being middle class, on my way to being rich, it was brought to my attention that my beliefs about money still need to be improved.
There have been many false beliefs that have already been replaced with better ones. Do you have any harmful beliefs that might be holding you back? Take a second and think about it. Do you still believe that money is evil? And yet you desperately want some? Do you want to be healthy, so you workout and go on a diet, all the while believing in your heart that you are fat, and always will be… but wouldn’t it be nice to be skinny like those other people.
These are the kind of beliefs I’m talking about… the ones that we have programmed our brains to work by. When we try to do something in our lives that goes against what our brains have been programmed (beliefs) to do, our brains will self sabotage us. Think about it… have you ever been three days into that new diet and you’re starting to feel really great, when all of a sudden you seem to hit a wall and the only thing you can think about is that Whopper Value Meal? And you’re thoughts become more and more irrational, until you’ve convinced yourself that it’s okay to cheat just this once… and before you know it — you’re back on your same old SAD (Standard American Diet) lifestyle.
And while we’re kind of on the subject (or at least we will be), who is your role model in life? I’m not talking about the famous people… the actresses or models who have the kind of body that you want. I’m talking about the real life, in your life, people who have been where you are and have gotten to where they are. Seek these people out. Pick their brains. Find out how they did it. Become best friends. Statistically, you become who your peer group (friends) are. Don’t believe me? Look at the annual income of your 5 best friends… add them all up and divide by 5 to get the average yearly income… Now look at your yearly income, I bet it’s almost the same. Maybe it’s time for some new best friends. At the very least, find a few friends who at least want to better the quality of their lives and are trying to do something about it. Don’t befriend talkers, befriend doers.
So, back to my faulty money belief… Again, while reading (I’m an avid reader, and if you want to be successful, than it’s my belief that you should be too… just ask anybody who has come from nothing and made themselves successful — you gotta learn somewhere) Anyway, I was reading a book about finances and the author, Larry Winget, (you might know him from A&E’s show Big Spender) was talking about most people’s views on money. He brought up the point that, You don’t make money, you EARN it! Most people just want to have more money, they don’t want to earn it.
Do you see how this can be a hindrance to actually having more money in your life? Most people want to have better things, but they never do anything to get those things. Be an earner.
