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Releasing Pain
Jun 2nd
At times in life, we all undergo periods of discomfort and pain, whether physically or emotionally. Quite often the two are interrelated, with the negative emotions bringing dis-ease to the body, and vice versa. The pain is there to let us know we need to do something differently, whether to stay off our feet for a few days, or not eat that thing that upsets our stomach, or to keep better guard over our hearts and thoughts. The most important thing with pain is to listen to it. Learn what it wants to teach you, then you can thank it and send it on its way.
I am a firm believer that pain is a tool that guides us to a place of being where we can no longer experience it. It is a strong stimulus pushing us upward on our journey of spiritual and physical evolution. The old Chinese saying goes, “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” While pain can be healing, sometimes we get stuck there when it is no longer useful to us. We can become addicted to the feeling of a bad memory, the rush of the chemically depressing cocktail that our brain puts out when we think a certain way. In this case we are no longer in pain, but in suffering. Suffering is a choice that we can make at every opportunity. Have you ever noticed how some people around you seem to always be caught up in some kind of drama? Their car breaks down, they got in a fight with their spouse, the waiter brought them the wrong meal, the dry cleaners lost their clothes. It all comes back to how you want to look at the glass, whether half full or half empty. Lately, with great success, I have been welcoming the pain when it comes. Not seeking it out mind you, but not resisting it when it cannot be resisted. Then once the pain is accepted, I give myself permission to enjoy it. This works especially well with painful or negative emotions. Don’t fight against them, just enjoy them to no end. The funniest thing happens; before you know it, there is a smile on your face and you’re no longer in a bad mood, or angry, or hurt. The next time you’re in a funk, try to really enjoy it. See what happens and let me know about it.
Get Rid Of Pain In Your Life
Feb 7th
Having been slowed down by a fever for the past few days, I realized just how important it is in life to be free from pain. If you’re living in pain, it is near impossible to enjoy your life, and happiness or bliss, is the ultimate goal, is it not?
What are some of the things causing pain in your life? What are the things that are stopping you from absolute bliss?
Think about it…
Overcoming Emotional Pain
Jan 7th
After many years struggling with the pain of break-ups and other life altering emotional pains, I had an epiphany the other day that I’d like to share.
If something is causing you pain, Let Go Of It!
That’s it… It took me years to figure that one out… I should have listened to myself as a child with the stove. Let’s think about it though.
Physically, if you were to grab a hot pan, what would you do? You’d get it out of your hand as soon as possible, right? Does this mean you’ll never use or relate to that pan again? Hardly… it just caused a pain in you that was undesirable, so you let it go.
It is the same thing with emotional pain… you don’t stop feeling or loving or expressing, you just let go of whatever it is that’s causing the pain.
This can be difficult as most people confuse how they feel for who they are. You are not your emotions.
Pain is often a teacher that helps us to realize what we need to grow and heal… Hence, why we tend to repeat painful lessons over and over again, until we’ve finally learned them. Often we become addicted to the emotional pain/depression, and like a drug addict (which is literally what’s happening to your brain chemistry), every time we begin to feel ok again, we trigger a memory or something else that sends us spiraling into emotional pain again, and our brain gives us a chemical fix for that depressing feeling.
In the same way that a drug addict has to detox and quit the habit, if you’ve become addicted to the buzz of your emotional misery, than you’ll need to quit as well.
How do you do this? A Higher Power always helps (hence why it’s part of the programs NA & AA), and then you take responsibility for your thoughts.
When your thoughts begin to stray down a path that you know will tear open the healing wound and cause you pain, you simply don’t go there anymore… You let go of it, or maybe a better way of looking at it, is You Stop Holding On To It.
In the end, it all still comes down to healthy thoughts. Garbage In, Garbage Out… You are what you think you are… and you truly are what you eat (literally, it’s what your body is physically made of).
Much Love and Sunshine! 
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